Y'all, I came across a Bob Proctor quote that had me sitting in my car for an extra ten minutes just processing the weight of what he said. And honey, when something stops me mid-chew from my Spring Roll, you know I was...

He broke it down like this: "Depression starts from ignorance, doubt and worry. Doubt and worry are on the negative side of life. Understanding is on the positive side. You go from doubt and worry to fear, the fear moves into anxiety. Anxiety is never expressed, it's suppressed. The suppression turns to depression. The depression turns into disease. The disease turns into decay."

Then he flipped the whole script:

"You go from understanding to faith. Faith manifests on the physical plane not as anxiety, but as wellbeing. The wellbeing's not suppressed, it's expressed. And the expression turns to acceleration. That doesn't turn to disease because you're at ease, and that turns into creation not disintegration."

Can we just sit with that for a minute? Because this man just laid out the entire roadmap of how we either heal ourselves or destroy ourselves, and it all starts in our minds.

The Downward Spiral We Don't Talk About

Let's be honest about something that might make us uncomfortable. How many of us are walking around carrying doubt like it's a designer handbag? We doubt our decisions, our worth, our ability to handle whatever life throws at us. And that doubt? It's not just sitting there looking pretty. It's busy at work, transforming into worry.

Bob Proctor called doubt and worry "psychic diseases" and "intellectual exercises." We're literally using our minds to build negative ideas, and that's all we can see. We take that negativity and internalize it, getting emotionally involved with it.

I've been there, especially after losing my mom. The doubt was loud: "Can I really raise my daughter without her guidance? Am I making the right choices? What if I mess this up?"

That doubt turned into worry, and honey, worry is just fear wearing a fancy outfit.

But here's what Bob Proctor understood that most of us miss: "Doubt and worry come from ignorance. Understanding comes from knowledge, but you got to study to get it." When we operate from ignorance instead of understanding, we're setting ourselves up for that downward spiral.

The progression is clear: doubt and worry (ignorance) lead to fear (emotional involvement), which creates anxiety in the body, which gets suppressed instead of expressed, which becomes depression, disease, and ultimately decay.

Sinclair Lewis said "We don't die, we kill ourselves." That's heavy, but is it wrong?

The Upward Spiral That Changes Everything

But wait, there's hope in this story, and it's beautiful. What if instead of starting with doubt, we started with understanding? Not understanding everything, because let's be real, life is confusing. But understanding that we don't have to figure it all out right now. Understanding that we're exactly where we need to be, even when it doesn't feel like it.

From understanding comes faith. And here's the mind-blowing part that Bob Proctor pointed out: "Faith and fear both demand you believe something you can't see. Why would people choose fear over faith? Because they're ignorant."

Think about that. Both faith and fear require believing in something unseen. Fear has you believing in all the bad things that might happen. Faith has you believing in all the good things that are possible. Same energy, different direction.

So why choose fear over faith? Why choose the story that destroys you over the story that creates you?

When Wellbeing Gets to Breathe

Here's where it gets interesting. When you operate from faith instead of fear, you create wellbeing. And wellbeing isn't something you hide or suppress. You can't help but express it. It shows up in how you walk, how you talk to your kids, how you make decisions, how you treat your body.

That expression turns into acceleration. You start building energy instead of depleting it. You start creating instead of just surviving. And when you're creating, you're not dis-easing yourself. You're literally at ease.

The Doctor's Dilemma

Bob Proctor said something that might ruffle some feathers: "They go to the doctor, the doctor gives them Valium or some kind of drug to cool them out. He gets them numb so they don't know what the hell they're doing."

Now, I'm not anti-medicine when it's truly needed. But can we acknowledge that sometimes we're medicating symptoms without addressing the root cause? What if the root cause starts with ignorance, and the cure starts with understanding?

What if the root cause isn't just physical? What if it's mental, emotional, spiritual? What if we're trying to fix with pills what can only be healed with a shift in perspective?

I watched my mom navigate her illness, and while medical intervention gave us precious time together, I also saw how fear-based thinking could spiral her into dark places. The days when she chose faith over fear? Those were the days she felt strongest, laughed hardest, and seemed most herself.

It Really Is All Mental

Bob Proctor said he could "show anybody how to overcome depression if they'll do it, but they got to do it." And that's where the work comes in. That's where repetition comes in.

You are a human being with the power to control your own mind. But most people can't see a better future because they're operating from ignorance instead of understanding.

We've been taught to worry as a form of caring. We've been taught that anxiety means we're responsible. We've been taught that expecting good things is naive and that preparing for the worst is practical.

But what if practical is actually killing us slowly?

The Faith Experiment

Here's what I'm trying, and maybe you want to try it too. Every time I catch myself in the doubt-worry-fear cycle, I pause and ask: "What would faith look like right now?"

▪︎ When I'm worried about money: Faith looks like trusting that I have skills and creativity that can create abundance.

▪︎ When I'm doubting my parenting: Faith looks like believing that love and intention matter more than perfection.

▪︎ When I'm anxious about the future: Faith looks like focusing on what I can control today and trusting the process for everything else.

It's not about toxic positivity or pretending problems don't exist. It's about choosing which story I'm going to tell myself about those problems.

The Body Keeps Score

Our bodies are always listening to our thoughts and responding accordingly. When we're in chronic worry, our bodies stay in fight-or-flight mode. When we're suppressing emotions, our bodies store that tension. When we're in faith and ease, our bodies can actually do what they're designed to do: heal, restore, and create.

The mind-body connection isn't woo-woo wellness nonsense. It's science. It's also ancient wisdom that our grandmothers knew instinctively.

Creating vs. Disintegrating

Every day, we're either creating or disintegrating. We're either building ourselves up or tearing ourselves down. The choice starts in our minds, but it shows up in our bodies, our relationships, our work, our legacy.

What are you creating today? What story are you telling yourself about your life, your possibilities, your worth?

The Daily Practice

This isn't about achieving some perfect state of faith and never feeling fear again. It's about catching yourself in the downward spiral and consciously choosing the upward one.

Understanding over doubt. Faith over fear. Expression over suppression. Creation over destruction.

Your mind is either your greatest enemy or your greatest ally. The choice is yours.

A Love Letter to My Anxious Friends

If you're reading this and you're tired of being tired, tired of worrying about everything, tired of feeling like your mind is working against you, please know this: you have more power than you realize.

Your thoughts aren't facts. Your fears aren't predictions. Your past isn't your future.

You get to choose, moment by moment, which direction you're going to go. And honey, you deserve to go in the direction of creation, not destruction.

The Bottom Line

Bob Proctor was right. It really is all a mental trip. The question is: which trip are you going to take?

The one that leads to dis-ease and decay? Or the one that leads to wellbeing and creation?

Your mind is waiting for your answer. Your body is waiting for your answer. Your future is waiting for your answer.

Choose faith. Choose expression. Choose creation.

Choose yourself.

If you're ready to dive deeper into transforming your mindset and breaking free from limiting beliefs, I highly recommend checking out his book 'Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life' - it's packed with practical wisdom that aligns perfectly with everything we've been talking about.

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Disclaimer: This blog post is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. If you're struggling with depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional. You deserve support, and there's no shame in asking for help.

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